Taking Action - What will you do?
So, you've experienced a situation in your child's birth or watched it occur to someone else. What will you do with that negative stuff filling a random spot in your head space that was previously just as full with positive thoughts? That's a pretty big question when you take a breather and think about it. And no two answers will be alike, nor are they wrong! What will you do with your birth trauma? No one can answer that but you.
No one wants ptsd, ppd or other related issues from birth trauma to consume them or take over even the smallest part of the life, it's just not fun for you or anyone around you. So what will you do with it? Will you...
* Conquer your thoughts to move on for yourself and your family?
* Will you share your birth story or story of healing so others can see that this is an ongoing and real problem?
* Will you offer a shoulder and ear to another mother, family or professional?
* Will you empower yourself to be a stronger woman?
* Will you help prevent birth traumas by educating soon-to-be-parents with unbiased information so they can make their own informed decisions?
* Will you educate medical professionals so they can see with a clearer mind their impact on the birthing mother, family and other professionals?
* Will you take your birth trauma and stomp on it til it's squished and beaten down instead of your birth trauma doing that to you?
* Will you bury it inside and try to never think about it again?
* Will you let it eat you up and consume you inside and out until you just can't take it anymore?
Taking your birth trauma and educating others, preventing trauma, finding an outlet for recourse, these things are all BIG ways to help you heal and of course help others in the process. But, those are big things. Conquering your birth trauma for yourself and your family is HUGE. It's a monumental step for a mother with birth trauma to come out of it saying "You know what, it happened to me, and I don't accept it, and I'm not going to let it control me." That's just huge.
And I want to emphasize that by taking that step, that doesn't mean you won't cry about it anymore, or if you do cry about it you've gone backwards in healing. Sometimes, we just need to let ourselves cry and be sad for a moment, angry, upset, whatever the emotion may be. Sometimes I get so damn mad at what happened to me that I have to cry, let out a scream and/or use one of several "trauma outlets" like writing to get it out of my system. It makes me so mad!!! And that's okay.
So, what will you do with your birth trauma? What is best for you and your family? Remember, there is no "little" step in healing. You are a strong momma (partner, child, professional, etc.) to be dealing with this in the first place! There is no "little" part to birth trauma.
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